Home Care Services to Relieve Caregiver Guilt

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Don’t let caregiver guilt get the best of you. Reach out to us for support!

As a family caregiver, handling normal responsibilities on top of caring for family members can feel like juggling flaming swords and knives. It’s natural for family members to become overwhelmed and to experience feelings of caregiver guilt when wanting to provide the best care for a loved one.

Guilt can look many different ways. You may feel like you need to spend more time with the loved one you care for. You may be feeling guilty about considering a nursing home for the older person. The guilt could come about after the senior’s dementia-fueled repetitions caused you to snap. Or perhaps you feel like you’re neglecting your own children in order to care for a senior family member.

When you feel guilt closing in, keep this in mind: You are doing your very best, and it’s ok to ask for help.

Let’s dive deeper into that statement. First: you are doing your very best. You would probably agree, but do you really believe it? Reminding yourself about these facts if you’re unsure may help:

• This is my very best effort.

• My family member appreciates me, even if they can’t or refuse to say so.

• Mistakes are a part of the process.

• I can’t change or correct the past, but I can control my feelings about it.

• I am doing enough.

Try putting these affirmations on post-it notes around the house, such as on the fridge or in the medicine cabinet. And if there is a particular statement that really inspires you, utilize the calendar app on your phone to set it as a daily reminder.

Second: Don’t be afraid to reach out for support, whether that means professional help through Dakota Home Care, or help from other family members, your own personal friends, or your loved one’s friends.

The family member’s friends are a great place to start. We’ve all heard from well-meaning friends, “Just let me know what I can help you with.” But do we ever take them up on their offer? Your loved one’s friends in the neighborhood may refrain from helping in order to avoid stepping on your toes. Reach out to them and request specific help, like, “Would you come visit with Mom every Thursday for a couple of hours?” You may be surprised to discover how willing people are to help out — they just need to know what you need.

Siblings and other family members that live close by are also a resource. Keep in mind, if you’re able to get help for even a couple of small chores, you will undoubtedly feel less overwhelmed. Maybe Aunt Betty can take Mom to her weekly physical therapy appointment, or Cousin Bob can go with Grandpa to church.

For families that don’t live close by, reach out to them for tasks that can be done over the phone or online, such as researching adult day care facilities, or determining the most cost-effective pharmacy for the senior’s prescription medications.

The very best solution, however, is partnering with Dakota Home Care for customized in-home care support. We are available to help with services such as:

• Transportation to medical appointments and enjoyable outings

• Nutritious meal planning and preparation

• Companionship for socialization through conversations, hobbies/interests, exercise, and more

• Routine respite care

• Light house cleaning and laundry

• Specialty care for seniors diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or other chronic health concerns

• And more

Dakota Home Care is here to walk alongside you during your caregiving journey and help alleviate caregiver guilt. Our trained and experienced home care team can meet a wide range of needs particular to the challenges a senior is facing. Our caregiving professionals can make sure your loved one has everything needed, providing you with vital time away for self-care. Contact Dakota Home Care, the leading provider of elderly home care in Bismarck, Lincoln, Mandan, Fargo, West Fargo, and the surrounding communities, online or at (877) 691-0015 for more information.

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